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Giving the Gift of Encouragement to Your Kids

Because many of my readers have asked for me to post the following words to say and not to say to children, I am sharing it again. Blessings to each of you!


Encouraging and Motivating Your Sons and Daughters

10 Encouraging Things to Say That Build Kids Up: Every Child Needs to Hear that:

§ I believe in you.

§ It’s a blessing to be your mom/dad (grandma, aunt)

§ I love you. Then be specific: I love your smile (energy, caring heart, etc.)

§ I noticed…(you got your homework done, or that you have a new friend).

That’s what I call responsibility (kindness, other character quality)

§ Keep up the good work. You’re making progress!

§ If more kids were like you, this world would be a better place.

§ There is a bright future ahead for you.

§ Thanks for what you did…(helping, doing chores, doing homework, etc.)

§ If all the 8 year old girls (or 10, 5, use child’s age) were lined up from all over the world and I could only pick one, I’d pick YOU

§ I admire or am proud of you for …(name a specific quality or trait)

10 Negative Phrases NOT TO SAY Because They Tear Kids Down

§ You’re no good; you’ll never amount to anything.

§ If you don’t stop doing that, I’m going to leave you here (or go home without you).

§ Why can’t you be more like your brother/sister?

§ I can’t stand you.

§ You are so much trouble.

§ I can’t wait until you’re grown up and out of here.

§ Don’t you ever listen? Where are your brains?

§ What’s WRONG with you?

§ You are stupid.

§ You’re giving me a headache (or stressing me out).




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Mother-Daughter Duet: Getting to the Relationship You Want with Your Adult Daughter

Written by a mother and daughter who have successfully navigated the minefield from distance and tension to acceptance and friendship, Mother-Daughter Duet helps moms open wide the door of communication so that daughters want to walk through it. Filled with personal anecdotes and based on proven principles, each chapter offers timeless wisdom as well as a daughter’s perspective. Often these principles apply to daughters-in-law as well.

The relationship between mothers and daug hters is intense, personal, complex, and unique. But you can have the loving, authentic bond you always dreamed of—when you learn the mother-daughter duet.



Hear C heri and Ali discuss "Mother/Daughter" Relationships on a great Chicago Radio show.

Latest Book Review: Shooting the rapids...surviving the raising, enjoying relationship, May 10, 2010

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Cheri Fuller: Inspiring Messages, Encouraging Books

If you’re looking for a dynamic speaker who will encourage your heart, fill you with hope, and share ways to recharge your relationships and life, Cheri Fuller is the ideal speaker for your next event. You will leave energized by a fresh sense of God's grace and equipped with creative ideas for your adventure through life and your spiritual journey.

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NEWS FLASH! Tune into Cheri's live webcast "Helping Your Child Thrive in School" Wed., August 4, 1 p.m. Central Time.
and the encouraging back-to-school broadcast Focus on the Family broadcast August 9 & 10. (Check your local Christian stations)


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